Strictly in the amorous sense, what do you think lasts longer: Love, which is more of a fleeting emotion, between two individuals or friendship, which has deeper roots?
Some, like me, would argue that friendship is the basis of love. If you don’t relate to the person, your frequencies don’t match, you don’t listen, talk, and be brutally honest … there can be no love. You need to be able to reach a comfort level, where you can truly be yourself without fear of being judged. When you can have acceptance. When you can embrace differences. When you can share experiences in complete silence and not feel the need for words.
But others might say that love needs no other relationship to build itself on. It happens in the blink of an eye. People are meant to be … Much like the staple kind of love we see in Hollywood and Bollywood.
For me, love is a state of mind. It doesn’t last 24/7. Friendship on the other hand is more permanent. I may not “feel the love” for my husband every moment of the day, but I know we’re the best of friends at all times.
I posed this question on This or That and received an overwhelming response in favor of friendship (perhaps it had something to do with the way the two were defined?).
But here, I want to delve deeper. I don’t just want you to tell me which one — I want you to share the “why.”
So, go on all of you with spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, and significant others … tell me what lasts longer — love or friendship?