Confessions of the “non-feminine” kind

March 4, 2010

44564 Clipart Illustration Of A Women Shopping In A Mall With Giant Presents Confessions of the non feminine kind

“But every woman loves going to the mall!!”

I cannot even begin to count how many times I’ve had the same surprised … nay …. jaw-dropping reaction to my disinterest in going to a 50,000 square-foot zoo of clothes, shoes, knickknacks, and fast food. I just find it a terrible waste of time.

It’s crowded. There’s always the temptation to buy junk food. You browse and browse and browse and after some time it all starts looking the same.

When I can buy almost everything stocked in a mall online, why would I go through the hassle of driving to a shopping center teeming with people, spend an average of 15 minutes looking for a parking spot, and tire my soles walking from one end to the other because the two stores I need stuff from are at opposite ends of the mall?

And why would I lug those bags when I can get the same items delivered (for free most of the time) to my doorstep?

Even on those rare occasions that I do end up going to the mall (and believe me, before taking that extreme step I try everything in my power to avoid it!) I’m in and out in half an hour.

I know exactly what I want, which shop I’m headed to, and how much I’m willing to pay. If I don’t find what I’m looking for in that one store, I head out in 10 minutes. If I do, I try it on … if it fits, I pay for it and am on my way. I can’t look at one thing in one store, then head to another to compare the style, the price, the what-have-you … I just don’t have the patience.

Same applies to manis, pedis, facials — too much time investment. When all you really need is a daily cleaning-moisturizing regimen. The only time I’ve experienced these extravagances is right before my wedding. To make mom happy.

Makeup? My “kit” includes a foundation, a mini eyeshadow box (a gift), and lip balm.

Jewelry? I’m not into diamonds, let’s just say that. Or gold. Or silver. I go for the $2 earrings, have worn the same modest ring for the last nine years without any urge to “upgrade” and even though I got my nose pierced last week, I know the stud’s only going to be replaced (if at all) with other $2 equivalents. The more expensive the jewelry, the more a waste of money it seems. $800 for a tiny piece of rock that catches the sun? That could be my trip to Kauai!

Handbags? Most days you’ll see me with a cloth sling bag just big enough to hold my wallet, phone, and keys. It’s date Confessions of the non feminine kind

It’s not just women who think I’m weird when I express my disinterest in these supposedly “feminine” things. It’s also men.

“You’d rather stay back and play Monopoly with us instead of going to the mall with our wives? Are you sure?” ask my male friends.

When we visit our friend in San Francisco, he always insists we go to the Bloomingdale’s across his house.

I always ask for other options.

“You’d rather hike when you’re sitting in the middle of this shopping mecca?” he asks eyes widened, mouth open, voice shrill.

I think heels are impractical, pantyhose is useless, and perfumes are for those who smell bad enough for others to notice. And don’t even get me started on lacy lingerie — such a scam!

It’s not that I’m not “girly” — whatever that’s supposed to mean — but these are just some things other women enjoy and I don’t. It’s just that simple.

Some female friends have commented that I enjoy defying stereotypes, but I really don’t have an agenda.

All I ask is why restrict yourself with labels? Why not do something you truly enjoy doing instead of being stuck with society’s notion of what you should and shouldn’t do? There’s a whole world of opportunities out there for me to discover — why shouldn’t I experiment?

Men like this, women like that — oh  baloney!

Unearth the joys of discovering yourself. And go do what you like!

Side note: try doing a Google image search with the keyword “shopping.” No surprises icon smile Confessions of the non feminine kind

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12 Responses to Confessions of the “non-feminine” kind

  1. Anon1No Gravatar on March 4, 2010 at 7:28 am

    "Why not do something you truly enjoy doing instead of being stuck with society’s notion of what you should and shouldn’t do?"…

    I AGREE !! Even if that means.. going shopping ! :p

  2. Payal GuptaNo Gravatar on March 4, 2010 at 1:47 pm

    Loved ur post. Even I hate shopping. I don’t get it why everyone assumes that all girls like shopping.

  3. VishalNo Gravatar on March 4, 2010 at 6:13 pm

    Great post….that is the ‘way to go’ in life:)

  4. beth chapmanNo Gravatar on March 5, 2010 at 11:44 pm

    Power to the non stereotypes! Keep experimenting and please continue to take us with you!

  5. Vikas YadavNo Gravatar on March 6, 2010 at 10:29 am

    WOW Mansi.. you really got this shopping thing optimized.. i try to be like you.. but as I am, a messed up life, I end up spending a couple of hours in a Mall 4-5 times a year. You are my role model shopper.

    The reason which force me to step out is clothes… as when you buy them online their fitting might not work (even if you are well versed with the fitting nomenclature as companies have their variations too). Returning/exchanging online can be serious hassle in terms of time and money, thus I try to restrict it to non-clothing items.

    People who do not go out much and want to burn their dollars should use shopping in Mall as a chance to go out and burn :0)

  6. JacquiNo Gravatar on March 9, 2010 at 9:16 am

    Woo hoo! I know how you feel exactly. I cannot stand shopping. Too many people bumping into me. Too much choice. Too many things to entice me. And I hate being ripped off. There are so many nice things in charity shops these days. Original, much better quality and so much cheaper. I only shop when I absolutely have to, otherwise to be avoided at all costs.

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  11. KileyNo Gravatar on December 3, 2010 at 8:32 am

    This cartoon helps explain why I don’t like ‘mall shopping’

    • MansiNo Gravatar on December 8, 2010 at 3:10 pm

      Heh. Cute.
      Thanks for sharing, Kiley.


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